Space · rank 4 of 5 · being seen

Front and center

Take the most visible spot in the venue for two full songs, visibly enjoying yourself.

Free. Nothing to download. Always take no for an answer.

Why it works

The front row feels exposed because everyone can see you having fun. That is the rep.

Two full songs in the most visible spot in the room, visibly having a good time, without checking who is watching.

You drift to the back after one song. Note the moment it got uncomfortable. Next time, aim to stay past it.

1
Before
Rate your nerves from 1 (panicking) to 10 (at ease), and guess how it will go.
2
Do it
Play the card. A no counts. A bail counts. Walking up to the moment is most of the rep.
3
After
Rate your nerves again and say what actually happened. The gap between the two numbers is the workout.

The Space suit · being looked at

Too big for tonight? Start at rank 3, Statue on Broadway. Cleared it? Rank 5 is Dance floor pioneer.

1

Claim the rail

Take full space at the bar for 5 minutes: elbows wide, feet planted. Don't shrink when someone walks up.
2

The slow scan

Scan the whole room slowly for 60 seconds. Catch eyes, smile, nod. Look away first no more than twice.
3

Statue on Broadway

Stand completely still on a busy sidewalk, out of anyone's way, for 2 minutes. No phone.
4

Front and center

Take the most visible spot in the venue for two full songs, visibly enjoying yourself.
5

Dance floor pioneer

Be the first person dancing where nobody is dancing. Hold it for a full song.

The worst case is a stranger saying no, and you'll live.